I had a little talk with my mom this evening and the topic about having talked about funeral details and death details came up. It's incredibly sad for me to look around and think that nearly all of my local friends and internet friends have had that conversation with their spouse.

Heck, my husband and I are 23 and 22 years old and have already dove into it. With his third deployment coming up, of course we've talked a little bit about it. But I find it extremely upsetting that at our age we have already had this talk. Of course it has to do with the line of work that he is in, but how many civilian couples do you know that have had to have this talk? Especially when both people are in good health?

Now, no one really wants to bring up the topic but how do you really say, "Hey Hon. What do you want me to do in case you die?" When I have brought up such scenarios (of course I was not that blunt) neither of us were in the mood to go into details. But of course you want to honor his/her wishes at the same time.

I literally went through a listing of those KIA last year and found five men that I had either met or knew of because of their spouse. And after sitting there, with tears coming to my eyes, I couldn't imagine not knowing how my husband wanted to be seen out by his friends and family.